Home is where…
Three Word Thursday #24
Yesterday I found an interesting facebook post in a group of “Germans in San Francisco and the Bay Area”. Someone posted the question: “Are here any Germans who came to came “for ever” but eventually moved back home anyway? Which reasons have convinced you in the end? My husband and I discuss it over and over since it is such an incredibly big step.” This post really struck a chord with me. I read all the comments and left one myself.
Home is where your heart is.
The same question has been on my mind for a long time now. Our family did actually not come to stay forever. But we didn’t move here for an international expat assignment either. And for this reason we had never a set return date. My husband always wanted to keep an open mind and I’m sure without having a “deadline” you are able to integrate much deeper than the typical expat family. We built a new, an American life here and that’s not easy to leave behind. I miss my home country, friends and family, as well as the European culture (and the bread) all the time, but is the life back in Germany really better? The grass is always greener on the other side, but this side over here is pretty green…
Home is where you make it.
I found it fascinating that most of the comments reflected my own thoughts and feelings. We all seem to be in the same boat. Quite a few people mentioned that they wouldn’t want to retire in the US because of the poor health care system. Parents definitely consider the German education system as the better one and that the social support for parents, especially single parents leaves a lot to be desired in comparison with Germany. A three-month maternal leave is considered a luxury here!
Trump and the insufficient gun laws are more negative points on the US side.
Quite a few people emphasized the freedom in the US, the cultural diversity and the numerous job opportunities. While others miss the culture and history of Europe. And did I mention the bread?Overall, Germans seem to appreciate the friendliness, positivity and impartiality of Californians and that reminds me of my post 66 Things I Know About Californians.
Home is where my family is.
Most commenters agree that once you’ve moved to a different country and lived abroad for a while, you will always be torn in between the two places. It will be a never-ending conflict or let’s say dilemma you have to live with. There are pros and cons for every country though. I suppose everyone has to decide what is best for their life, their family, their job in the particular situation.
But I totally agree with the questioner: It is an incredibly big step and it’s probably best to just jump and to be contend wherever you land.